What is the first thing you think about when you wake up? Is it your aches and pains, your life, your child? It’s not someone else’s aches and pains, life, or child, is it? Most likely, it is not. And that’s OK. We are hard-wired as human beings to primarily think about ourselves and our offspring. Self-centeredness serves largely for survival.
We have somehow—or maybe naturally—progressed to a reality-television–level of self-centeredness, though. It’s gone way beyond survival to sacrificing our dignity and our children’s privacy. What is it, that we all want the camera turned on us? (And, oh, how it turns on us!)
This idea that we want to see ourselves the way others do—and then alter it, change the narrative—has become an insidious pastime. One reality space dweller once commented that she is always happy on Instagram because that’s what she wants to portray. And so we see how we are seen and then we tweak it, plump it, enhance it, minimize it, spin it, filter it, or, quite often, apologize for it.
I propose a new concept, a radical one from a couple thousand years ago. Lay down your phone. Forget yourself. Think of others as you would think of yourself: First. I’ll try to do the same.